Supports 3: Statements

Article one was all about ACCEPTANCE, and article two discussed CONFIDENCE. Both concepts are essential when we construct “supportive statements”. In other words, a functioning supportive statement needs to include something about you accepting your child’s anxiety and showing confidence.

Writing or saying supportive statements is actually much more difficult than it is. One reason why this difficulty exists has to do with timing. Have you noticed that kids often experience anxiety at times when we are either busy, stressed, or just not ready to deal without anxiety “tantrums”? Many parents have shared that often their kids have anxiety outbursts at the wrong time. So when we as parents are emotionally involved and our mind is busy with something else, sometimes it is easier to give in rather than provide a supportive statement that includes acceptance and confidence. I get it, it is difficult!

He, did you notice I just made a supportive statement that included the acceptance component? Yes, it is merely as easy as just acknowledging that what your child is going through is perhaps difficult, even though you do not feel it what way yourself!

Constructing supportive statements that include acceptance and confidence that are honest and not fabricated requires some practice. You don’t want your child to get the idea that you are just making things up, because that is not what should be happening.

In Session two of our SPACE Training, Jacinta (Speech and Language Pathologist) focuses exclusively on constructing supportive statements that not only convey your understanding and acceptance but also show your child that you are confident in what they can achieve. Remember, it has to be done in a way that your child notices your shift in approaching their anxiety. They may find it funny or surprising, or sometimes kids ask you why you are changing the way you speak to them. This is a natural response, and you can then simply tell your child that you have been thinking and working on how you can respond to his/her anxiety because you want to help the best you can.

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